WHEN BRINGING ASTROLOGY
into your relationships, the reality is you're going in loaded with ammo. When you date someone and choose to examine your relationship astrologically, you are interacting with their whole chart. There is always going to be something you can point at to explain why your relationship fails. But what about love? What if you love someone? Love cannot be reduced to an equation. This is why I do not typically agree with "compatability" in its pop astrology contexts. So what if you love someone whose Moon squares your own? Challenging aspects, in truth, are not all that bad. Sometimes they are an invitation for change to occur.
Then again, sometimes people rarely realize the challenge they pose to their partner. Today, people want their partner to deliver, bliss and hot sex and total agreement- or else! Or else they're out the door.
as opposed to compatability, is defined as the "coincidence or agreement of the influences of the stars over the destinies of two persons." It is the art of relational astrology, and it is an illuminating source for the interactions between people. While more complex than compatability, the results of synastry readings are as worthy and unique as our own personalities. One common method for synastry reading is the practice of creating a composite chart.
A COMPOSITE CHART
is a chart of the midpoints between two separate charts. Say again?
What you're doing is merging the two charts to come up with a chart of their relationship. The mathematical midpoint between the two Suns becomes the composite chart's Sun. The midpoint between the two Moons becomes the composite Moon, and so forth. Thus the composite Sun shows the purpose of a relationship; where and how the couple shine and express their vital life energy. When evaluating a relationship, pay mind to the house in your chart where your partner's sun falls. That house will be lit up and energized by your partner's solar energy. This attraction is indeed "written in the stars."
Partner's sun in your 1st house –
You immediately identify with this person. A great overlay for any relationship.
Partner's sun in your 2nd house –
This person will affect your self esteem. You're likely to value them highly, and may be possessive of them.
Partner's sun in your 3rd house –
This person will give you a lot to think about. Creative or clever ideas.
Partner's sun in your 4th house –
Nurturing. This person will light up your home and all things domestic. They'll put you in touch with your roots. They energize you emotionally and bring light and warmth (Sun) to your home and family.
Partner's sun in your 5th house –
This is a fun overlay. It's like being on a date, even if you're married thirty years!
Partner's sun in your 6th house –
This person will help you. It's good, but sort of utilitarian.
Partner's sun in your 7th house –
This person will seem a natural partner. They'll bring balance to your life; not that everyone wants that!
Partner's sun in your 8th house –
I think, "symbiotic," when I see this overlay. This person will light up the dark recesses of your psyche. This couple lives (and shines) in the shadow. People are attracted and repelled. You are comfortable in uncomfortable places and are attracted to them. You deal in depth. You are intensely loyal and lack interest in anything superficial. You live for transformation via exchange of energy and thrive in the 8th house realms of death and psyche, healing and regeneration.
Partner's sun in your 9th house –
This person will open doors of all kinds for you. It's freeing and it's fun. You'll travel, literally or otherwise. You'll expand.
Partner's sun in your 10th house –
This person might give you status. Their energy will enhance your public image, bring you attention of some kind.
Partner's sun in your 11th house –
This person will encourage you to be yourself and live freely.
Partner's sun in your 12th house –
This person blends with you. You're in communion, basically.
also known as the inconjunct— is a 150° angle formed by planets five signs apart. With the presence of this aspect, people are asked to reconcile the irreconcilable, and thus the quincunx requires a creative leap to blend the two sets of needs and traits. Oppositions can balance one another– with sufficient give and take. It's a kind of partnership. It is inevitable.
Squares butt heads because the two planets are in competition with one another, yet clash in part because they want some of the same types of things. The quincunx, however, is a "does not compute" aspect. The wants and needs of the two signs involved have no real connection—instead it's a disconnect. They're unrelated by element or mode, so there's no natural point of contact, no easy affinity or resonance. What do they have in common? The quincunx is classified neither as a harmonious nor as an aspect of tension. It indicates potential that is difficult to realise. In contrast to the square or opposition it doesn't usually feel like a significant source of tension, demanding action. A quincunx can involve an effort to reconcile two planets' meanings in the chart, but even when the initial signs seem positive, there is no guarantee of success. In the end, it may not prove possible to truly integrate the energies involved. For example, if Venus and Mars stand in quincunx to one another a person may try to boost her self-confidence by investing large amounts of energy (Mars) in order to achieve aesthetic goals (Venus). But she may feel that the energy invested never produces the desired results. For this reason the quincunx is thought to be difficult to deal with and is often referred to as an aspect of desire or longing. On the other hand it shows important themes which the horoscope owner must face. The lack of success can be an impetus to consider and possibly change established patterns of behaviour. In this sense the quincunx hints at new possibilities.
Any aspects with Mars (energy. Spark. Action. Stimulus) or Venus/Jupiter (expansion. Ease. Joy) or Saturn (commitment. Obstacles. Endurance) shows endurance- the prospect for a relationship to endure. Houses of moon & venus: unconscious needs. What kind of life satisfying to individual. Saturns house areas of frustration and perceived lacks. Neptunes house shows what eludes one in finding their satisfaction.
Look at individual charts. 7th, 8th, Venus, Moon
Compare what one offers that meets the other's needs
Sun, Moon, North Node, Asc, Dsc very strong
A Venus conjunct B Moon = juicy reward
Important points of contact: conjunct, opposite, square
Sun + Moon = a real knowing, blending which takes place
Sun + Mars = can be very competitive
Sun + Saturn = fated. People have work to do together which holds them in the relationship.
Sun + Asc
Moon + Asc
Moon + Saturn = very fated
Mars + Moon = very erotic, exciting
Mars + Asc = very stimulating
Jupiter + Sun, Moon, Venus, or Mars = joyfulness, expanding, risking, opportunity, harmony, excesses
A contact + B ruler of 7th house = has to be there for the relationship to last. Any planet or contact counts here, but some (like trines) are weaker ties.
Subtler but still powerful contacts
A fills in a missing element for B
A has planets in sign of B's interception, particularly important if B has no planets there
A has planets in contact with B's Juno
Sharing the same or opposing planetary pair by sign or aspect
Venus + Moon = true affection
Venus + Jupiter = happy together
Venus + Mars = yin yang exchange
Sun or Venus + Uranus = excitement
Sun + Saturn or Jupiter = success, "they make me feel so good" is really "they open that part in me"
Lesser contacts to consider
Venus + Moon or Sun = like each other, genuine affection between them
Mars + Venus (A,S,D,F) = stimulation
A has planet(s) in B's 7th house
Planets that fall on another's angles (Asc, dsc, mc/ic)
A Venus or Moon conjunct B MC = they will further your goals or career, person has an affection for what you want to do and is unselfish in nurturing or giving to you
Mars + Mars or Venus + Venus = any aspect, you're moving in same direction or have similar values